A place to understand what keeps happening between you.
You may care deeply about each other and still keep ending up in the same arguments.
Maybe one of you reaches for connection while the other pulls away. Maybe conversations become tense quickly, or important things go unsaid until resentment has already built up.
Sometimes the relationship is not in crisis. It just does not feel as close as it once did.
The argument is not always the whole story.
Couples often come to therapy knowing what they fight about. What is harder to see is the pattern underneath the fight.
One person may push for a conversation because distance feels unbearable while the other pulls back because things already feel too charged.
You may both leave the same interaction feeling unheard, even though each of you was trying to protect something important.
Therapy gives us a place to slow that pattern down and understand what each of you is reacting to without turning either person into the problem.
What we may work on.
We can begin with what is happening between you now and pay attention to what happens when the two of you try to talk about it.
Sometimes the work is about finding a different way to stay connected when a conversation becomes difficult.
Couples therapy in California.
I provide virtual psychotherapy to couples located in California through the secure systems used by California Counseling Collective.